I was talking with a friend the other day who was saying that she thought one of her friends son's may be autistic, and even though his parents were in denial that she felt she shouldn't say anything. Caleb's Asperger's is fairly mild on the spectrum scale and I had to fight long and hard when it came to finding professionals that would listen that there was something in my little boy that wasn't coping. Even now I get people saying that "you wouldn't know", "am I sure", or my all time favourite verse "All boys do that". I have got to say though a lot of the symptoms of Asperger's are normal toddler behaviour, just in the extreme. At the primary school we are sending him too eventually they had 12 boys with Asperger's this year, a friend commented "That can't be right, they must just over diagnos it". I digress again.
The photo above is of Caleb's trains all lined up, a really common coping technique. We have a lot of repetitive play and not too much imaginative, compulsive moments. He also manages really well in social situations and then tantrums once we get home as he works so hard to keep it together for outside people. At his peak, we couldn't leave the house, new places were just too hard, and we have slowly built that up over time to where most of it can be enjoying, even if 2 hours is about his limit. I have got to tell you I too have some great stories from snide people as I tried to calm him down, but that is for another time.
I guess the point I am trying to make, even if it is long winded, is if you think that there is something with your child you are concerned about, to search until you are satisfied with the response (not in an over-the-top ER kind of way). Caleb was at his peak of behaviors at the beginning of the year, and now after lots of work he is doing great. There is light and relief if you know what you are dealing with and you can give your child the tools to cope. I also discovered the best solutions for our major problems, (getting in the car seat, toilet training, showering, etc) were the ones that I came up with. I know him best, it too a long time though for me to trust those instincts. Blah - I hope this made some kind of sense, I promise more sewing tomorrow.